Part 2: Getting Intimate (LIVE transcript)

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Hi everyone, sorry about the rough start there. Welcome, thanks for showing up, we are broadcasting from the Urban Hive in Sacramento, which is kind of exciting. It’s the co-working space I belong too.  Let’s get started… Thanks everyone who viewed the video from last week. I’ve decided I’m going to keep doing these videos every Friday at one, let me know if there’s anything you want to talk about. I think we are going to go in the direction of how social media is affecting our lives, our families and how we communicate.

So, to get started:

14. What do you value most in a friendship?

Loyalty. I think it is one of the most important things you can find in your friends.

15. What is your most treasured memory?

Growing up I lived at the end of a gravel road, next door to us was a rarely used summer home. My brother and I use to call it the, “Private Property” because there was a big sign in front. We would go in there and always pick flowers for my Mom. We wouldn’t pick the California poppies but there was a field of them in this overgrown backyard, apple trees were like caves, and it was just really magical. I think having really good memories of that are my most treasured.

16. What is your most terrible memory?

Well, I think you guys I’m going to have to save that one for the memoirs. Your have to read the book if it ever gets written.

17. What does friendship mean to you?

Friendship means family. I came a part of my best friend’s family in high school. It’s really important to me. I have a really unique relationship with the friends I have in my life.

18. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

I’m not a big hugger but I think that love, especially, is one of the most important things we can have in our lives.

19. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

I think it’s natural that children don’t understand the intricacies of how complicated life can be, and there is a lot of joy in that. My adopted family and I are really close and as I get older it’s something I’ve really come to cherish. I think after many years of therapy, (Hi, Veronica, thanks for joining) I learned to really appreciate the good things from my childhood and to separate them from the bad, using those bad experiences as stepping stones to moving forward with my life.

20. Complete this sentence:”I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

My life with. I think finding a partner to share your life with is something I really value.

21. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

I think it’s important that my partner or people I’m dating is that I deal with depression. I think that can be hard to date at times.

22. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Thank you for showing up and watch my show!

23. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

When I was in 6th grade I was singing for the 6th grade graduation show. In the middle of of my song, I looked at my mom and ran off the stage crying.

24. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

It would be Tuesday, a friend and I were having an emotional conversation. Last Saturday I cried by myself.

25. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

Well, I kind of already answered that.

26. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Race. I think race is too serious, we have systemic problem in this country and it’s something that should be addressed.

27. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why? I have to say my photo albums. It’s so sad we don’t print photos anymore.

And now to the comments, I have to say it’s really nerve racking seeing the comments come in and trying to read those questions.

Do you think that a soulmate and happiness is possible? I think there are plenty of soulmates in our lives and everyone can find happiness. I use to do wedding catering when I lived in Pittsburgh and you just saw so many different groups of people getting married, and yeah, I think there is someone for everyone. I think there are multiple someones for everyone. Sometimes, I think it’s just a matter of making decisions.

And Veronica, so that’s where you get it from laughing on stage. I don’t know… it’s just a nervous… I laugh when I get nervous.  

Well everyone thank you so much for showing up. That’s a wrap! As we move forward I’m going to be focusing my LIVEcast on Social Media and how it’s affecting our lives as a county and in our personal lives, like teenager and social media. I hope to see you next week and take care.

Part 1: Getting Intimate (LIVE transcript)

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Alright, Hi everyone! Ok... Let’s see, to get this started, this is my first one so bear with me. I hope that it’s interesting. I’m definitely open to hearing criticism or anything that I can to improve.

Alright, first off, in case no one shows up, I have put together a list of questions that I found on the blog Barking Up the Wrong Tree. It’s a study where Arthur Aaron created a list of questions that are suppose to bring people closer to their romantic partners and in hopes to get out of my writer’s block, they always say that, “All the best art comes from vulnerability,” So, I figured I would answer these questions LIVE in a two part series. The first half today and the second half next Friday at 1pm PST, same time.

To get started, I have to say that when I was preparing to go LIVE today I had a physical response to the vulnerability that happens around question 15 or 16.We be getting right up there then I’ll answer them next week.

Also [sign language] For my Deaf friends, I’ll be transcribing this video and posting it to my blog later. I love you and thank you for your support.

Unfortunately, CC isn’t an option for LIVE video. It is important to me that they have access to to the live video since I won’t be signing.

Let’s get started….

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world,(oh hi there, thanks for joining) whom would you want as a dinner guest? I think my obvious answer is the Obamas, but the less obvious answer is Larry Gagosian, he owns galleries all over the world and has pulled off some amazing shows.  

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

I think people assume I want to be famous because I have a blog but that’s really not true. I just want to get paid to do things that I love. What I think is really important is what legacy are you leaving behind. If my blog could inspire a teenager somewhere to go to college or pursue their dreams, knowing that the life they have lived doesn’t have to define them…. Then I’ve done my job.

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

I don’t usually rehearse anything, I’m pretty comfortable talking, I did public speaking in high school. If it’s a serious conversation and important to me I will definitely run through my talking points.

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

Waking up next to the person you love, it doesn’t matter if it’s sharing coffee in Italy and travelling the world or doing mundane things, like watching ‘Meet the Press’.

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

I don’t sing, I smoked way too many cigarettes in college. It’s something I avoid.

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Mind, 100%.

7. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Since I’m not doing this with a romantic partner, I’m doing it with Facebook LIVE, I think that people who follow my blog are more open, interested in sustainable fashion, since I do my late night Twitter hours, and people who are interested in what it’s like to raise a teenager. I didn’t give birth to Dominic I just take care of him.

8. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? (Hi Dominic) Dominic, him moving in with me has really changed my life. And my siblings both adopted and biological. My siblings are some of the most inspiring individuals I’ve ever met. (Rolando sorry to hear about your reception and Whitney, thanks for joining.)

9. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? I have a really sordid past, my family fell apart when I was 16 but I moved in with my best friend's family my senior year of high school. As a teenager, I really battled wanting those things to change. As I got older, I accepted that I have a lot of amazing things in my life and the reasons for that, is the way it happened. If there is anything I would want to change, is... I feel like I missed out on a lot of foundational things. Like cleaning up your dishes after dinner, those things don’t come naturally to me. They were things I had to learn going through my early 20’s.

10. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? I wish I could fly. I think it would be so much fun to be able to travel all over the world, that’s why I find the Hyperloop project so interesting.

11. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know? I would want to know if the people I love are happy. That things work out in the way we are always trying to build them. I also think that happiness is something that is learned over time, that you become more and more happy with your circumstances and surroundings.

12. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? I’ve been dreaming about writing a book, I haven’t done it because it’s really hard. I still don’t know if I’m old enough to write a memoir. But I guess we’ll see?

Thanks everyone for joining, hope to see you next Friday at 1pm PST. Take Care.

Links, Lust N'at

• Capsule wardrobes? It’s a thing, and I’m into it.

• Do you think the modern era can contribute to an increase of mental illness in children? This article talks about the importance of simplifying our child’s life.  I remember moving to UCLA and meeting a girl in my dorms who grew-up in the city. In our conversation I was describing my hometown and all of it’s magical nuances. This city slicker college student looked at me,”Wait, if there’s no mall where did you hang out as a teenager?” I hung out in the forest climbing trees. I went to the river with friends and hunted waterfalls. Everyday as a kid was filled with discovery and imagination.  I loved the simplicity of my pre-smartphone childhood.

• I do love my record player… I could be down to be turned into vinyl after my death. It’s probably the closest I’d be to becoming a rock star.  

• According to this piece, gentrification is a myth. What do think? I’m a little skeptical. There's a Fox News: Climate change isn't real, feel to it. 

• Cuba, a country of great mystery and romance. Get a taste of Havana’s elusive architectural history with these photos.

• Along the dating lines, Forbes released a list of this year’s Most Eligible Billionaire Bachelors. I hope there’s more women on the list come 2017!

• Mandy from the Curvy Blogger is killing it with her fashion/travel photos. Her and her husband gave-up 80% of their items to move into a camper and travel the country (a win for minimalism!) This awesome babe always inspires me to be myself.