Self-care isn’t something that comes naturally to me. If given choices of what’s best for me or others’ I love, I choose them… not trying to sound like a martyr, it’s because I often fail to set boundaries.

The reason I’m writing about this is because when I make these seemingly ‘selfless choices,’ they bubble up and attach themselves to unresolved pain like maggots on dead flesh; possibly also know as PTSD. I carry them around deep inside of me in a pressure cooker until all that stress causes me to lose my mind, exploding into a depressive human no one wants to be around. Mental health is a thing!

The point is, that an unhappy person struggles to be a good parent, to be a supportive partner or a gracious friend. To some degree we have to be selfish in order to live our authentic truths.

There is way too much noise in the world to do anything but what we can do best is to be ourselves, in all our glory, greatness and love.

Self-worth and care take a lot of consistency. Here are three apps I’ve been using to help facilitate my daily practice and transformation.

Way of Life: This app is super simple. I heard about it on His and Hers Podcast. Basically you pick 3-5 habits you would like to complete everyday and check them either red or green to track your progress. Mine are writing, exercising and not drinking alcohol.

Simple Habit: It’s a daily meditation app. I find it’s really helpful and the beginning of the day or at night when I’m often riddled with anxiety and insomnia. Sometimes it’s necessary to just stop and calm down.

My Fitness Pal: This one I struggle to maintain. However, I’ve enlisted one of my close friends to be my accountability buddy. Just having someone there to encourage you every time you enter a salad, is actually quite helpful.